People experience sexual feelings in many different forms. Whether this is because we try to satisfy our many sexual desires, or is a natural physiological phenomenon, we shall answer in the following paragraphs. Sex is fulfilled through 4 distinct stages - attraction - arousal - climax - resolution. During the arousal stage, both men and women go through the same changes but women usually take a little longer. Arousal for men takes only a short time and can be controlled. During arousal, there can be partial erections, full erections, or in the case of extreme excitement, erections that continue on even after ejaculation. On the other hand, women take much longer for arousal, during which the clitoris and the nipples becomes erect, vaginal fluids are secreted, and the breasts become flushed. There are many similarities in the sexual response for men and women, but there are also differences. Women have more difficulty experiencing orgasm than men, the reasons being the following.
First, women feel that they should achieve orgasm through intercourse, but this is not necessarily the best way. Sexologist Hite contends that although most women do not achieve orgasm through intercourse, most are able to feel the climax through masturbation. This may be because through intercourse the clitoris cannot be directly stimulated, whereas through masturbation it can. Thus, depending on the women, stimulation by hand or mouth, rather than intercourse, may be more effective. However, many couples are still obsessed with the notion of achieving orgasm through intercourse. Because of this expectation, many women who are unable to achieve vaginal orgasms feel left out.
Second, men and women reach climax at different speeds. Men climax after 2 to 7 minutes of intercourse, but most women only reach it after at least 15 minutes. This is because in women, the clitoris is indirectly stimulated during intercourse. According to the Kinsey Report, women are said to be able to orgasm after 4 minutes of masturbation. Lack of orgasm during intercourse may be due to its brevity. (Drawing out the time of intercourse may be helpful in reaching orgasm.) There are sexologists who insist that the vagina rather than the clitoris is the bigger erogenous zone.
Third, women are pressured by society to have more guilt about sex. Sexual desire in women may be suppressed due to guilt about having sex and negative feelings associated with sex arising out a love-hate relationship. The reasons for the difference in achieving orgasm among men and women are not only because of the difference in the sensitivity and the arousal time. Many women fake orgasm to please their partners, but this may end up having exactly the opposite effect.
According to a survey by Playboy Magazine, 28% of the men and two-thirds of the women fake their orgasms. However, a more open and frank exchange of feelings during sex will bring about more sexual satisfaction. The biggest difference between men and women sexually is the fact that men, after having an orgasm, do not respond to any sort of sexual stimuli and are temporarily "impotent" for a short period of time. This period of impotence ranges from a few minutes to a few hours depending on age. The older the man is, the longer the wait period. The reason for this temporary lapse in sensitivity has not been clarified as of yet, but there are speculations that the brain may play a major role in it. As mentioned above, men, after one orgasm, go through a wait period where there is no sexual response at all; however, in women it is different. They can experience a number of orgasms in a row, one after the other without any wait period. So in a very short period, multiple orgasms can occur. However, this does not apply to all women. Statistically, only 15% of all women are said to be able to experience multiple orgasms. Women who are concerned about their lack of multiple orgasms will find comfort in the fact that they are of the majority. The word orgasm is derived from a Greek word "orgasmos," which means ripe, rise to passion, and gather strength. According to research done by Masters and Johnson, orgasm is the third stage (climax) of the four stages of sex. In both men and women, the nipples and the area around the genitals become flushed during orgasm. Another word for orgasm is climax, and the scientific definition of it is the rhythmic contractions of the genitals arising due to physical and mental stimulations. Women experience many different kinds or modalities of orgasms depending on the individual, sexual position, the sexual partner, or the situation (in the case of the same partner). Since the psychological element of orgasm is just as important as its physiological counterpart, men need to take into consideration the psychology behind orgasm when trying to please a woman.
According to the latest research, most women are said to be able to distinguish between a vaginal and clitoral orgasm. Furthermore, they are reported to be most satisfied with an orgasm that encompasses both of these forms. 1. The Male orgasm At 0.8-second intervals, a series of contractions occur in the penis. In contrast to the often hard to achieve and occasional female orgasm, the male orgasm is very distinct and easily attained. During orgasm, the body goes through many physical changes and once orgasm and ejaculation is achieved, the body enters a cool-off phase where no further sexual response or arousal can occur. This period lasts about 15 minutes and increases with age. For some seniors, this cool-off period can last up to several days. The most effective way to bring about another erection is by stimulating the glans of the penis. 2. The Female orgasm
During arousal, the area around the vagina is filled with blood, and the clitoris and the labia become erect. The contractions of orgasm can be felt around the vagina, the sphincteral muscles, and even around the uterus. Female ejaculation, which has been known to exist for many years, is a clear, odorless solution secreted during vaginal orgasms. This type of ejaculation is observed in women with very strong pubic and tailbone muscles or women whose g-spot has been stimulated. The amount of secretion depends on the individual, varying from a few drops to copious amounts. Many women are dissatisfied with their lack of having orgasms. The good news, however, is that women achieve orgasms easier as they age, and that sexual interest and orgasms double as they experience their 30s.